Relationship 101? Is she for real?

I’m afraid SHE is. LOL. Welcome to my ramblings. Blame all this on sitting on the train for an hour thinking about the stuff people ask me. I’m no counselor. I’m no doctor.  I’m not even a therapist.

So how could a girl who loves to write know anything about relationships?  Well, it’s very possible that I don’t.  Hah! Joke’s on you. But maybe,  just maybe,  I can tell you something that could help. Because while my author persona lives in the stories she writes and the happily ever afters she loves, the other me lives on firm ground.
I often get asked questions by women about relationships and how they know if one is worth the risk. My first thoughts are: What do you dislike about him? How well do you handle pressure?  And my all time favorite: Are you willing to give in?

I will discuss some things with you using the word him often because I am speaking to those women who ask me about relationship, but this can apply to a guy as well.

A lot of people will speak wonderful things about relationships and marriage. But others… will grab you by the forearms look at you dead in the eyes and whisper “GET. OUT. NOW!” Fun right?

If you’re one of my close friends, you’ve heard me give you the GET OUT NOW bit. But reality is: I am a dedicated person. If I say for better or worse, you better believe my ass will be there when shit hits the fan. But not everyone thinks like me. Which is why I have given those who ask the detailed explanations on my 3 questions posted above. Let’s discuss my three questions.

What do you dislike about him?

Admit it. We all have something or a lot of somethings we wish the person we are in a relationship with would cut out. Is he cheap? Is he a pig? Is he lazy in bed? Whatever you dislike,  think long and hard. He’s so hot, but… whatever is after that but will be trouble. TRUST ME. I tell people all the time but they think I’m being funny! I don’t know why. ‘Oh Milly! You so silly. You’re married and you’re giving me all this anti-marriage advice’. It is not anti-marriage. OK, sometimes it is. Especially is my hubs has pissed me off recently. Which can happen often. But anyway, what I am trying to do is help you realize that it will not be peaches and cream. And the sooner you go in with your combat gear ready for battle to take the world on next to your partner, the smoother your journey together will be. That area is what will grow to piss you off to no end until you either break up, or burst a blood vessel in frustration…or, here’s a crazy thought, you can just learn to live with it.

How well do you handle pressure?

Do you fold when things get rough? Do you get angry? Do you run? Not everyone can handle critical situations. Relationships are not easy. And if someone tells you they are, know this:  that person is lying. Shit happens to people every single day. How strong you stand, as an individual and a couple,  determines how much more your commitment will grow. I tend to be very laid back with things, because I have gone through so many difficult things in life, that nothing fazes me anymore. But not everyone has my life experiences. Remember that relationships go through rough times, but running away from the problem will only put you in a different zip code and the problem will still exist.  And rule number one: Always remember that whatever you’re going through? There are others going through much worse!

Are you willing to give in?

Relationships are not a contest of who is right and who is wrong. But when in doubt, she’s right. Lol. I kid, I swear. A lot of debates between couples are caused by question #1. If you’re in a disagreement,  figure out a way to work things out without escalating the situation.  I am guilty of being one of those people to visualize bashing a certain someone’s head in when he doesn’t listen and I KNOW I’m right. Or if he is stuck on stupidity. But will that solve anything? OK, you might say it will at least make ME feel better, but that won’t fix the problem at hand. It’s easy to place blame and get angry. Focus on solutions.

You need to understand something right now. The person you are with will not (I repeat: WILL NOT) change for anyone but themselves.  Change is a choice. You won’t fix him. You won’t change him. BUT if he loves you enough and knows something is hurting the relationship,  he has the power to make the change needed. I like to tell people to look at their partners.  Can you accept them exactly as they are without changing a thing? If so, you are golden. But most cases it’s: he/she needs to stop so and so. Accept them for who they are, as they are, and demand the same. Change may never happen and if you’re okay with that, the battle for relationship endurance is already half won.

A great relationship isn’t about having the perfect person, it’s about finding an imperfect person that’s just right for you.

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CAN YOU HANDLE AN ALPHA?

I’m currently finishing my latest wolf story: Scent of a Mate. It has all the sexiness you know comes from a Milly book with the fights and drama we love that make these couples burn the e-readers. One of the reasons I love writing alpha men is that they don’t have to be jerks in my book to be strong. An alpha is all about being a leader, but also knowing what’s important. For my alphas, their mates, their families and making the ones they love happy are always top priorities. It is no wonder that with my love for alphas, I give you some of the men that inspire the alphas in my writing.

Some may be a little misguided in their approach at giving their mates the things they need, but they always love with the passion every one of my heroines needs. They are bossy, yes, but what leader isn’t? They’re used to grabbing a situation by the balls and fixing it. They’re possessive. Nothing and no one will interfere with the women they want. That includes the women themselves.

Fighting your attraction for an alpha is useless. They know you want them and will wear you down until you’re putty on their bed, or couch, or car, or heck, even the street. These are men that will fight anyone in order to protect their women. But when you put an alpha man with an alpha woman together? Watch sparks fly.

These men love a strong woman. They love someone who can step up to the plate and help them lead if necessary. And they love a sassy sexy woman who can hold her own against a man used to making others bend to his will.

They will do whatever is necessary to ensure the innocents are always safe. They play hard. They fight hard. They love hard. That’s the kind of alpha I like to write.

Do you like alpha men? What do you like about them? 

Welcome to my stop in the caliente blog hop!!!

Caliente – HOT

Yeah baby! This is the kind of writing I like to give readers. At least I think that’s what I give. I haven’t had complaints in that area. I love giving my imagination wings and getting sexy when it comes to writing romance. A lot of people confuse Erotic Romance with Erotica. While I love both, there is a difference. I write Erotic Romance for the most part. The difference between the two is the emotional connection. Erotica is all about sexy baby lol. Bet you sang that bit didn’t you? LOL. There is romance in my books. And always either a happily ever after or a happy for now but there is no you go your way and I go mine. No matter how the story goes I need an emotional connection and I need a happily ever after. That’s the main difference between erotica and erotic romance. I do so love the fact I can give readers raw unadulterated sex scenes. I have very vocal heroines who like to tell their men what they like. They are open to exploring new things and yes, they are into some kinky stuff. So my books can be defined as caliente. I love all things caliente. Food. Men. Toys. Hell, if it were up to me I’d live in the caliente caribbean. I have caliente blood in me. So you came to the right spot if you are looking for hot.

Wolf Protector

A woman with a secret…
The Federal Paranormal Unit is an elite squad of supernaturals dedicated to solving missing persons cases. Erica’s gift allows her a special connection with the crime, but it comes at a deep personal cost… Until now, she’s kept her gift a secret, even from the other members of the team. But this case will throw her together with Agent Trent Buchanan. He’s the object of her secret desires, but he’s also a cocky womanizer. She’d rather swim in shark-infested waters with a paper cut than admit she has feelings for him.

A man with one desire…
Wolf Shifter Trent wants Erica more than he’s ever wanted any woman. He’s spent years patiently waiting for her to admit that she wants him too. Working one-on-one in a race to find a serial killer, Trent’s patience and Erica’s resolve wear thin. When Trent discovers the truth about Erica, will he accept her for who she is? And can he protect her from the horrors that her gift brings?

A case that pushes them to the edge…
Erica will have to risk it all if she wants to stop the killer, and when she does, Trent may have to put his own life on the line to make sure his mate is protected…

Let’s give you a super caliente bit from my book, Wolf Protector.

Caliente Excerpt

“Oh Dios…” Her breath hitched when she looked down. The hottest man she’d seen in her entire life licked, sucked, and caressed her body. He made her feel like she was the sexiest woman in the world. He looked up, and she almost came on the spot. He nibbled on her breast, and she groaned when he stopped and unlatched from her swollen nipple.

“I want you.” His voice was so rough she could barely make out the words. He gripped the waistband of her pants, but he didn’t unzip and open them. Instead, he watched her with expectation.

“I want you too.” She panted. “Now.”

Just in case he’d decided to stop, she moved her hands to the waist of her pants, unsnapped, and unzipped them. Then she watched him pull them and her panties down her legs. The sudden indrawn breath he took made her smile.

“You’re so fucking hot.”

He glanced up, licking his lips. Her pussy throbbed at that moment. Any thought not related to Trent licking her heat shut down in her mind.

“I swear I could look at you forever,” he whispered. His gaze roved over her naked body.

He stood, kissed her again, and lifted her into his arms. She wound her arms around his neck and wrapped her legs around his waist. His hands went straight to her ass cheeks and ground her to his cock. She whimpered and released his lips. Passion licked at her skin. She moved her mouth to his jaw. Biting down on the scruffy flesh turned her on like nothing ever had. She wondered if she had a vampire complex, because licking, sucking, and biting him made her aroused beyond the point of rational thought. She dug her nails into his naked arms. He moved with her in his grip, and soon she found herself on her back on the mattress. It was hard to breathe. She watched him strip off his pants with unwavering interest.

His body—and what a body it was—was defined with muscles and bronzed skin, made her lick and bite her lip in expectation. She mentally caressed down his big frame his long, thick cock. A shiver ran up her spine, and she gripped the sheets under her hands.

“Like what you see?” He smiled wickedly.

“Si, I do. But do you know what to do with that?”

It was time for him to put up or shut up. And she really wanted him to put up.

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Oh you lovely readers!!! It has been waaay too long since I had a giveaway…all of like a few days! That is awful!

Today you are here because I have this great friend that just had a new release (the lovely Brooklyn Wilde). She’s absolutely amazing!!! If you haven’t read her stuff you really should. She writes with a depth of emotion you don’t find often. Anyway, this is a little surprise for her. I’m sponsoring a giveaway FOR HER LOL. So this is a Pimpin’ Giveaway to help my wonderful friend out.

Here’s her awesome new book.

A Broken Man

Can passion heal a broken man?

Ethan Hendrix never needed anyone. But when a car accident leaves him wheelchair-bound, Ethan has nowhere to turn. Ethan’s terrified he may never walk again, much less run the business he worked so hard to build. Angry, alone, and afraid of being forced into a long-term care facility, Ethan reaches out to an unlikely source for help.

Physical therapist Sarah Portman has no patience for self-pity. So when Ethan asks Sarah to move in and be his caretaker, she thinks he’s lost his mind. But Ethan is desperate. In such close quarters, Sarah isn’t sure she can fight the intense sexual connection between them. Can Sarah help Ethan overcome his physical disability or will she be overcome by physical attraction?

Excerpt:

“I can’t do this.” Ethan’s muscles trembled as he strained against the unmoving bar. “I can’t fucking do this.” He slumped back into the chair. A bead of sweat had formed at his left temple.

“Don’t beat yourself up. It’s your first day. Besides, it’s only been, what…?” Sarah flipped up a page on her clipboard to look back at Ethan’s intake form. “Three months since the car accident? You’re doing great.”

“This is pointless.”

“It’s not pointless. The initial eval helps me to put together your physical therapy plan.”

“I’m not talking about the goddamn evaluation. I’m talking about everything. Everything.”

Sarah put her pencil down and looked at Ethan, studying his face. “So why are you here?”

Ethan opened his mouth to speak and shut it again. The question was simple enough, but he couldn’t seem to find an answer.

“I’m serious. What did you come here for if you really think it’s hopeless?”

“It is! Do you even know what the doctors said?”

“That’s not an answer.” Sarah’s eyes were trained on Ethan, daring him to say something. “No one forced you to come here, which can only mean one thing. Whatever the doctors said didn’t convince you.”

Her voice was level and calm, but that tone of practiced patience grated on him. She spoke to him as if he were a dull child, not a man whose life had just been ripped away from him. She patted his legs soothingly, and he stared down at the place where she’d touched him. He hadn’t felt a thing.

Ethan huffed in response. “Whatever. It’s a waste of time.”

“You’re not wasting my time. I get paid the same whether you do the work or not. It’s your dime, buddy.”

“That’s right. What do you even care? I’m just another paycheck to you.”

A wry smile spread across Sarah’s lips. “You caught me. Physical therapy isn’t just about the glamour.” She gestured around the room at the workout machines and therapy tables. “We’re really just in it for the money. I mean, look at what my disgruntled patients’ hard-earned dollars get me.” She nodded to the window. Through it he saw a ten-year-old Honda Civic with a fading paint job baking in the sun.

Ethan’s shoulders sagged as he let out a slow breath, like a balloon deflating. “I’m sorry,” he said. “Smart ass.” Though he tried hard to bite it back, a wisp of a smile tugged at the corners of his mouth.

The front door flew open, and the bells hanging from it jangled when they crashed against the glass. Ethan looked up just as a young boy on a skateboard whizzed inside. With a grunt, the boy popped the board up into the air, and it skidded across the bottom bar of one of the exercise machines. He landed with a thwack and slammed his back foot down on the lip of the board, causing it to leap up into his hand. The kid didn’t seem to be in need of any physical therapy. What was this, a clinic or a skate park?

“New board?” Sarah held out her hand for a quick high five.

“Yep, got it for my birthday.”

“Sweet.”

The boy plopped onto the floor and dug a large box out of his backpack. Ethan cleared his throat in annoyance, yanking Sarah’s attention away from the boy.

“Oh sorry,” she said. “Ethan Hendrix, meet Bradley the Bionic Boy.”

Bradley nodded and uttered a quick “’sup.”

Ethan crossed his arms over his chest. Just then, Bradley got the box open and handed Sarah a large metal object shaped like a scythe.

“Bitchin’.” She turned it over in her hands, admiring the strange-looking object. Finally, she held it out to Ethan. “Bradley here just got his first set of running legs. Wanted to stop by and take them for a quick spin. This should only take a minute.”

Running legs? Ethan heard the words but couldn’t work out what they meant until he saw Bradley roll up his jeans and remove his standard prosthetic legs, revealing stumps just below his knees. The realization took Ethan’s breath away.

Bradley set the prosthetics to the side, still clad in sneakers and white athletic socks. Sarah handed over the running leg, and he fitted it onto his left stump. Compared to the standard prosthetics, the running blade looked sleek and futuristic, like something out of a sci-fi movie. Bradley pulled the other blade from its box and placed it onto his right stump. In an instant, he was up onto the blades, bouncing and feeling them out. Ethan couldn’t believe how quickly the kid adapted to the new limbs.

Sarah probed around the base, checking the fit. “How do they feel? Any pinching?”

“Nope. They feel good.”

She demonstrated the proper motion and checked Bradley’s form while he took a few practice steps.

“All right.” She gave the kid a conspiratorial glance. “Let’s do this.”

With that, the two of them took off through the aisles. The jog turned into a run when they took the corner and reached a full-blown sprint by the time they made their first lap. Ethan felt like he was watching a bird take flight for the first time. The boy’s movements were awkward at first, but quickly turned graceful, effortless. Sarah jokingly put a hand on his chest and pushed herself ahead, which only spurred him on.

“Really push off and throw your weight into it.” She was running as hard as she could, and the words came out in a short staccato between breaths.

Bradley took to the running legs like a duck to water, and he was pulling away from her with every step. She finally gave in and slowed to a stop. She was breathing heavily by the time she made her way back over to Ethan. Bradley ran another full lap before bringing it home. He spread his arms open for a hug, but misjudged the distance and wound up tackling Sarah to the ground. The two of them collapsed into a heap, laughing hysterically. They could have been brother and sister. Ethan couldn’t remember the last time he’d laughed like that, and he didn’t think he ever would again.

“A little rough on the landing, but not bad for your first time out.” Sarah gave Bradley a push, and he bounded upright. He was already stuffing his everyday legs, calves first, back into his backpack by the time Sarah managed to get herself up off the floor. The sneakered feet stuck comically out of the unzipped compartment.

“I’ve gotta go,” he said. “I’m meeting my friends at the park to show these babies off. Think I’ll be good enough for the track team next year?”

“No question.”

Bradley nodded in Ethan’s general direction and turned to leave. The bells clanged just as hard when Bradley hit the door on his way out as they had when he came in. Sarah was still smiling when she turned her attention back to Ethan, who was eyeing her curiously.

“Did you plan that?” he asked.

“What?”

“Did you ask him to stop by here?”

“No, why would I do that?”

“To make me feel like an asshole.”

That earned a round of laughter from Sarah, and for the first time, Ethan realized how pretty she was. Her cheeks were flushed from the exercise, and a few strands of hair had fallen from her ponytail and hung loose about her face. She collapsed into the chair in front of him.

“No,” she said when she finally caught her breath. “But I should have.”

“He’s a real pity-party pooper.”

“That he is.”

“What happened to him anyway?”

“Nothing. Bradley was born without any legs. Can’t miss something you never had.”

“You’re good with kids. You treat him like he’s a grown-up.”

“Well, sometimes kids can be very grown-up, and sometimes adults can be big old babies.” She looked pointedly at him.

“Touché. I guess I don’t have it as bad as I thought.”

“Tell me, what exactly did the doctors say?”

Ethan leaned back in his wheelchair and stared down at his lifeless lower half. “That even though my spinal cord wasn’t severed, I’ll probably never walk again. They said I’m lucky to be alive, and if I hadn’t been wearing my seatbelt, I wouldn’t be.”

“You are lucky. Probably is better than definitely.” She patted Ethan’s thighs. “No catheter or colostomy bag?”

Ethan reddened at the suggestion and shook his head vehemently.

“Look, if you’ve still got control of your mind and your bowels, you’ve got nothing to complain about.”

“Are you always such a goddamned optimist?”

“Comes with the job. You want someone to listen to you whine? See a shrink.”

“I don’t need a shrink.”

“Okay then. Time to buck up and get your ass to work.”

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